There is always talk in the adoption world about the age of kids at adoption. Perception usually that it's easier with babies.
Luk and Kai have been much easier in so many ways. They have both clearly made choice to belong. To get along. They meet us half way with attachment. The girls were babies and they fought for independence and the cuddles were no where near as frequent. These beginning days with Kai are considerably easier than we were expecting.
The other concern I hear is about missing firsts. Yet, I'm not fussing about firsts we missed, we are way too busy experiencing first with the kids on a daily basis.
Tonight Kai had an ice cream cone with Luk and Jia. Clearly his first. The look on his face when he learned he could eat the cone. Priceless. Yesterday he played with play doh. Had a bath were he laughed like crazy over dumping water out of a boat. He was encouraged to try getting his own pants on. He wore spiderman underwear and sat on a western toilet off and on all morning. He went to the theater with the family to see Lili. Today he was babysat by the grandparents. Built a castle with Dad in the afternoon. Had a tea party with Luk and Jia and played games with Gramma, Luk and Jia. All firsts.
